A Season of Abiding in Christ
I am going to warn you now, this will be a long post so grab your self a hot drink and settle down!
Imagine we are sitting in my lounge together, sipping delicious cups of tea or coffee, chatting like girls do and having a heart to heart. That is what I want this post to be like!
So sister, in this post I am opening up to you and sharing my heart. It's going to be raw & real but I hope you feel encouraged, inspired and hopeful by the end of it.
Let me rewind to a couple weeks ago.
I was pretty happy with where I was in life, until one night, I had a dream about a guy that I admire which stirred up a whole lot of thoughts, feelings & desires.
In the following days I felt restless & discontent with where I was.
I looked at other girls, some even just a few years older than me, who were in romantic relationships.
I wished I had what they had.
I reached out to my mum, and other girls for advice. I wanted answers. I wanted direction, to know how to move forward.
Slowly but surely, God started to reveal to me what I should do, namely, to seek Him first.
I began in my search for answers & advice by reading Elisabeth Elliot's book, Passion & Purity.
That books shifted my focus. The story of Elisabeth & Jim Elliot is one that reflects Jesus so clearly and points to Him over and over again. After finishing it (which I did in a matter of days), I had hope and assurance that everything will happen in God's timing for He knows what is best for me.
But my journey doesn't and didn't end there. God was teaching me an important lesson.
I must stress the importance of reaching out to older, godly women in a time and season like this. If you too, face this struggle today don't hesitate to confide in your mother, grandmother, aunt, trusted friend, or another wise woman you know. They have sailed through these rough waters before and can offer you helpful advice and cover you in powerful prayer. I am so grateful for my own mother, grandmother and a few older sisters in Christ that have poured into my life in the last few years and helped me grow through times like this one.
While talking to older women who have already experienced these desires and longings is important, there is also great solace in sharing to girls in your own age group who may be going through exactly what you're going through. I was 'surprised' to find many other girls understood my sentiments and shared the same longings & desires, as well as the struggles with how to handle them.
Moving on in my journey over the last few weeks. I was still unsure of exactly what to do.
I had a second dream one night. I woke up and just lay there, wishing that I had not dreamed it.
Something I never thought of till someone pointed it out once, was that you can and should uplift your dreams (the type you have awhile you're sleeping) to God and ask Him to guard you from dreams that don't line up with Philippians 4:8. So I prayed for a few nights that God would guard my dreams while I slept and it helped!
Many of the girls who shared their advice all agreed on one thing. That prayer and continually digging into scripture was THE MOST IMPORTANT thing to do in a season such as this.
The Bible itself says, in Matthew 6:33, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
We are to have no other gods before the One True God, even relationships and desires that we have.
And I want to make myself clear, that I believe the desire for a husband and a romantic relationship is God given. If we didn't have that desire, no one would marry and there would be no future generations!
So in and of itself the desire for marriage is good. But if it distracts from our relationship with the Lord, its a problem.
It is now 22nd of May as I write this. I feel like I am in a better place now than I was a few weeks ago.
I want to share all the things I have done or am doing to help keep my focus on Christ in this season!
1. Contentment by Lydia Brownback
This devotional was the perfect thing for this season of my life. It is full of truth about contentment and where you truly find it--in Jesus. I have really enjoyed each chapter so far and it has really helped me discover that contentment is a choice, not something we feel based on our circumstances.
2. Studying contentment/satisfaction in the Bible
I went online and made a short list of specific passages & verse that speak about these topics and I am studying them slowly. My absolute favourite has been Isaiah 58:11.
This has been an amazing resource and has really helped my with establishing prayer into my life.
It has helped my to pray regularly, keep track of my prayers and keep things structured.
4. Sticking scripture reminders all around my room
I have verses almost everywhere I look in my room and they serve as constant reminders of God's truth!
I have created a Spotify playlist specific to this season of my life. It is called Surrender and is full of songs that sing of God's love for me, surrendering everything to the Lord & turning your eyes on Jesus.
6. Nurture the friendships you have with other sisters in Christ
It brought me so much joy this afternoon writing letters to my girlfriends and decorating the envelopes to send to them!
Take the time to pour into these relationships and treasure them, girls! God has blessed me with so many wonderful friends and I can't wait to see the memories we will make in the future as we grow in grace together.
7. Pursue creative hobbies or activities that bring you joy
Think about it. We are young now. We don't have a husband or family to care for so we have the time for these creative pursuits. I personally love knitting, painting, reading, scrapbook journaling, and a few other things.
8. Scripture writing
Basically scripture writing is when you copy down large passages of scripture into a notebook. I think this will be a great way to implant more scripture into my mind & heart.
9. Love Defined by Bethany Beal & Kristen Clark
I read this book last year and I decided to make it a yearly read. I plan to read it again soon!
Love Defined offers so much helpful advice for one's love life and biblical truth.
10. Coffee & Bible Time Podcast S2 Ep.3 - Finally being content in singleness (link)
I really liked this podcast episode and I found it quite helpful. Ashley shares a bit about her current season, her intentional year of singleness, and things she has done to find contentment during her singleness.
What would you add to this list?
Lets chat in the comments!
keep blooming,
